Most of the Indian customs, ceremonies, and traditions are nothing but sexist. And the reason they will never go away is because the creators and custodians are the women themselves. In fact they compete with each other and tally scores on who did more stringent, meticulous and downright irrational following one or more such rites and rituals.
The Indian Women at large do not believe or want to believe in a possibility of liberation ; in fact mother to daughter generation after generation the beliefs are handed down – that you are just a woman, and your place is in the house, your nature is to be meek and suffering is your liberation. In fact the more u suffer the greater the redemption…..where else do you think the notions of nirjala (waterless) fasts come from. The more you give up the better person you are? Really?
And why would the men folk bother or want to bother about changing any of it. Works fine for them….they don't even have to move a finger, as is the woman is ready to believe that her place is as their servant – servants to husbands, households and children. And if anybody thinks otherwise – there are again provisions given to men to get violent or barbaric.
There are indeed exceptions , but then they are examples and not the norm.
Norm is that the Indian Women, are the biggest opponent of any woman within their fraternity who tries to do or even think otherwise. We as a group are very much like the crabs….can't bear to see anyone break free. And we guise it under the grabs of upholding tradition and culture. I challenge everyone to go ask any big mouth of culture and tradition, as to why a specific ritual or ceremony is followed and the only answer they will give you is coz that is how it has been done for centuries. They ll never have a reason or logic for it. And they will not want to see any either.
Now, I don't say that our generation has it the hardest…… I cannot even imagine how the rebellious souls in the previous ones would have coped, when the level of education and exposure was way too less than what it is today.
But I guess just like the women of today they too were driven by an inner belief of right and wrong; and keeping mum was just not acceptable in their personal value system.
Guess some things should remain constant over the generations….for the generations to go on.
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For all the drama these women make, if we spent one third could be converted to currency, we would be trillionaires.
Sick of jobless aunties asking me when I will get married, produce children and the likes - and I can totally see them judging me when I say I dont intend to do any of that...
Seriously?
Go get a life!
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