Perception is Reality

Sensibilities are circumstantial, just like the perspectives......
and they drive each other.

I find it easier to blabber out - just say a whole lot of jumble of words, and throw in those few sentences which I really wanted to convey and leave it there.
It is easier coz it allows us all to save face.

I might find it so much tougher to sit down and say exactly what I wanted to say. You may not be willing to hear it, answer it, or even confront it. I wouldn't want to sound sad, nagging, or compulsive complainer. I would not want to confess, or run the risk of hearing a reply I don't want to hear.

So that is how I talk, you talk, we all do.

And because we are all so deft at the game, we all follow each other very well and play along. It is the path of least resistance, path of least hurt, and in the practical world it works very well.

Then again, since we don't make statements, we cannot be held to record, or accountable, even for what we say.

"Oh, but I was just blabbering some gibberish" ; or
"Don't take it too seriously."........and so on.

We are scared or our own selves, so before we show our good sides to others we show the bad ones.

"See this is the worst of me, so don't be mislead by any good I do, coz I don't trust myself enough not to hurt you even when I love you."

Or maybe it the dying need for acceptance, and the fear of rejection.

"These are the reasons they hate me, can u stand them?"
"I am a difficult person; don't tell me I didn't warn you."

We do it all the time.........friends, colleagues, lovers, acquaintances, family too sometimes.

And we throw in a lot of non relevant information with all these relevant pieces, and let you chose - take your pick.

If you could see the right ones (and you mostly do), maybe you ll make an informed decision.
But if you miss the key points, well, I can always accuse you of assumption and having the wrong perception.
Coz you are, and I am, what we believe, what we want to believe, what we perceive and what we want to perceive.

In the same space, in the same time, we happily coexist carrying our shared our separate perceptions.........living our shared or separate realities.