A drop of elixir

Things in life have a reason and a purpose. When made to serve the reason and fulfill the purpose - things, events, people - act like oil between the bearings of life, making every breath come easier and filling a life with life. But when they are made to be an end in its own, they fail their purpose and choke that very life to death.
Existence doesn't cease, but life does. Breakdowns happen, and we go around looking for the causes of failures.

And it is surprising how many a times our own identity stabs us in the back.

Identity is to define an entity, here an individual human being. Its purpose is to outline a broad collection of thoughts, ideas, dreams, traits, absolutely anything at all. It is not rigid, except for in our perceptions. It has its moments of exceptions and aberrations. And they are not wrong - till we make it so. Human nature is not to resist, but to accept. Without that we couldn't have come so far into civilization.

Identity plays a part in all human relationships - a positive part. But it becomes a bone of contention, when identity becomes bigger than the relationship itself.

It has a purpose, it is not the purpose.

Not many agree. And that is a distorted view. Don't come fighting, if I call it "distorted", coz to me that view is distorted.

Very early in like - I even remember the exact moment in time, the setting and the people - when talking in context of love relationships a friend pointed out that ego is the spoiler in any game of love. Honestly, I didn't really grasp it fully then, maybe coz I didn't have much to associate it with in real view of life. But even to that young a mind (just to give u an idea, it was some seven yrs ago) the weight of the statement was not lost, and I held onto it dear as a drop of elixir.

And a drop of elixir it is.

I ve not remembered to use it every time myself, nor been always able to share it with people, but the more I see, the more I learn, the more my belief in it strengthens.

I ve had quite some debates with more than one people, about how you have to loosen the grip on your identity as "I" when you are forging a relationship and learning to be a part of something bigger - an "US".
And it has always been a losing battle.
Like they always say, nobody wants unsolicited advice. If you are like me, who learns only in retrospect and I tell you that let your love be bigger than your ego (read that somewhere), you will defiantly not listen. But if you are like me, you ll need to hear this all the more.

Coz, some things in life are worth everything.